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Book Talk: Do You Have Kids? Life When the Answer is No

Scroll down below the replay for a list of resources recommended during the talk!

On the eve of Mother’s Day weekend, please join Kate Kaufmann and Jackie Shannon Hollis for an intimate, respectful, and frank conversation about what it means to be childless or childfree in a society that celebrates motherhood as the ultimate expression of female identity. This is a conversation for all of us--non-parents, parents and those as yet unsure--to explore a different path, whether by choice or circumstance, and to recognize the important role we all play in the lives of the children in our world.

Kate Kaufmann is the author of DO YOU HAVE KIDS? LIFE WHEN THE ANSWER IS NO, in which she explores topics from the shifting meaning of family to what we leave behind when we die. Weaving together wisdom from women ages twenty-four to ninety-one with both her own story and a growing body of research, Kate brings to light alternate routes to lives of meaning, connection, and joy.

Jackie Shannon Hollis is the author of the memoir, THIS PARTICULAR HAPPINESS: A CHILDLESS LOVE STORY. As a farm girl raised in eastern Oregon, Jackie expected to become a mother someday. But after several failed relationships she met and married a man who didn’t want children. Her debut memoir asks us to consider what we keep and what we abandon to make space for love.


Recommended resources from

Jackie Shannon Hollis, author of This Particular Happiness: A Childless Love Story

Kate Kaufmann, author of Do You Have Kids? Life When the Answer is No

Books - Nonfiction

Living the Life Unexpected: How to Find Hope, Meaning, and a Fulfilling Future Without Children by Jody Day

Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family & Creating a New Age of Independence by Dr. Amy Blackstone

How to be Childless: A History and Philosophy of Life Without Children by Rachel Chrastil

No One Tells You This: A Memoir by Glynnis MacNicol

Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed, anthology edited by Meghan Daum

Nobody’s Mother: Life Without Kids, anthology edited by Lynne Van Luven

The Girlfriend Mom: A Memoir by Dani Alpert

Two is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice by Laura A. Scott

Families of Two by Laura Carroll

Silent Sorority: A (Barren) Woman Gets Busy, Angry, Lost, and Found by Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos


Books - Fiction

Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens

The Overstory by Richard Powers

Red Clocks by Leni Zumas

The Royal Abduls by Ramiza Koya

The Age of the Child by Kristen Tsetsi



“To Kid or Not to Kid” (full-length documentary), written and directed by Maxine Trump

“Should We Kid or Not” (mini-series for PBS Independent Lens), written and directed by Maxine Trump

“My So-Called Selfish Life” (full-length documentary forthcoming), written and directed by Terese Shechter



Living Childfree with Erik and Melissa

The Fertility Podcast (UK)

World Childless Week

Gateway Women

The Full Stop

Not So Mommy

Childless Not by Choice with Civilla Morgan

Life Without Baby

Childless by Marriage

Childfree Girls (video cast) 

Reddit and Facebook offer a number of resources available by searching childless or childfree!